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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] Am I just feeling sorry for myself and my daughter? Am I being too sensitive? [/quote]

Yes to both.  Most of us love to talk about our kids and in many of the relationships we have, it is the kids who connected us.  When people talk about their kids, it is not to be mean or to make you feel bad.  It is not to rub it in your face that your child had problems.  It is simply because we love to talk about our kids.  It is not about you.  Just because life is rough for my SN son does not mean I cannot enjoy the things that my friends' NT kids are doing and accomplishing.  And, I for one, would not want people walking on egg shells around me because my son has special needs.

[quote]I have another kid who doesn't have special needs and is doing quite well in a lot of areas, and I go out of my way not to talk about her abilities to anyone other than my husband and interested relatives.[/quote]

If you do this, then you are misreading people and you are likely missing out on a lot of joy in your life.  People usually are genuinely happy to hear about your kids when they do well - even if their kids are not doing so well.  [/quote]

I have a Special needs [when young was odd, then deemed gifted on the old Fairfax harder to be GT scale, then disabled] plus NT's.   Some people would not talk or acted as if the SN didn't exist.  Asperger's /autism can be a really hard place.  Just listen to your neighbor and say "wow - I wish my child in vited to all those parties.   We are doing xyz this weekend.  Sometimes she is sad when she knows about parties and realizes she is different."  Then go on to ask about other things like do you set a limit on gift dollars or whatever.   The neighbor is being friendly and you can't expect everyone to not talk about their kids- the children are the most important thing in their lives.    [/quote]

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