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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP.

A couple of reasons :

1.  I am an introvert. I get drained by social encounters and energized by solitary. I socialize easily especially in neutral venues but I strongly prefer not to.

2. When I have gone for destination weddings I have always booked a hotel

3. I have a very strict routine with a severely disabled family member that I take care of 24/7. Hosting would throw my routine off which would make me anxious and in return would compromise the care to the sick family member.

4. My inlaws have not been supportive so I guess I am somewhat resentful. They have however done a few kind gestures in the past, so I am willing to compromise all the above and host if majority of you think hosting is the right thing to do.

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OP, all of your messages are "I," "me," "my".... Where's the "we," "us," "our" in all of this?  Is your husband going to be out of town the nights you have been asked to host?  Are you really being asked to do this singlehandly?  Does your husband have an opinion about hosting his family members and their closest friends?  Can he help pitch in so that you do not compromise on care of your other relative??[/quote]

My DH is the one who is severely disabled. He is letting me decide if we should host or not. He is however concerned that I might get very burnt out during the visit and after the visit because of the clean up and all, which would obviously compromise his care. [/quote]

The ILs want their severely disabled son to host?

No, just no. Absolutely say no and do not feel guilty.[/quote]

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