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OP here.  The timing of this trip is actually excellent because DH is a teacher and will still be off school.  It is not like my many work trips when I have to find early am child care so DH can actually get out the door for work.[/quote]

Maybe this + your "many work trips" is just not the lifestyle your husband envisioned now that you have kids, but this trip is the breaking point for him and instead of talking about time apart, he's just focusing on this particular trip. Something to think about - guys aren't always good at digging to the root of the issue (some are, but many aren't). What is "many" work trips? How many nights a month are you away from your child? Adding 8 on top of that might be more than he wants for his family. [/quote]

I take two trips of two weeks or so to Asia per year.  He did mention those this morning as if he thinks I am having a good time on those trips.  They are in fact painful.  My trips cannot be during the summer, as a matter of course.  I'd take him on one of those trips with me, and did once.  But when I am in Asia, I am working all day and into the evenings.  Last trip, I had one day between stops where, instead of seeing anything worth seeing, I slept.   I took him with me once, but now he can't because his work schedule does not allow him to take a full week off work during the school year.   A career choice on his part, btw, that cost me a full year of taking care of the kids full time while he was in grad school (days teaching, nights in class).  And, btw, when I am away during the school year, he has no more chores than when I am not.  He is responsible for bedtime routine on any given day, because I do mornings, and my parents do morning care when I travel.  My parents are not an option for doing mornings, btw, for the Cuba trip, nor should they be if DH is not working. [/quote]

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