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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You focus on your and the boyfriend's education and looks to demonstrate worth (superiority). WhaWhat if they are looking for someone with kindness, humor, ethics, etc.? I totally get that they may take issue with race, and that is wrong wrong wrong. But so is judging worth based on looks and education level.[/quote] It's OP's parents who made it clear they weren't focused on kindness, humor and ethics. They are concerned he doesn't make enough money.[/quote] Not true. They liked the "chronically unemployed white guy." And nothing in the original post indicates that they cared about looks at all.[/quote] He doesn't make enough money to make up for the fact that he's Hispanic. The focus on the guy's qualifications is from the parents, not the Op.[/quote] OK, accepting that as true, can we agree that looks have no place in the conversation?[/quote] From what I understand the looks come from the sister's requirements, which is why they come into play. [/quote] OP here: Exactly. She broke up with the white guy partly because he was fat, as were all of his relatives, and she didn't want her children getting fat genes from both parents. Her new boyfriend is handsome, sweet, polite, with a good job - basically everything that she wants and a lot more than she is bringing to the table - yet her parents are grieving as if he is an abusive felon or something.[/quote]
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