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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We've been together 8 years. We have a 5 year old and a 2.5 year old. Our problem is that we just don't talk anymore. We've tried date nights, but they are usually forced fun; it doesn't come natural. He believes that he is a great husband because he cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids etc. And he does do that. We have about a 60/40 split on housework and a 40/60 split on childcare. All of that works. In his eyes, that should make me happy. I tell him that I really do appreciate what he does, but I would rather have my best friend back than a clean house. [b]I think that work+2 small kids+ life's stress has taken a toll and we don't know how to turn a new page.[/b] [/quote]

[b]The not-so-good news[/b]: I am afraid this is how marriage works and you just have to accept it. No one prepares you for this; no one ever tells you these hard facts during the excitement of the dating, engagement, and wedding blah blah blah. The fact is that this is post-1970s Western family life: careers, mortgages, kids, sex, all competing for the most elusive thing......[b]TIME[/b]).

[b]The good news[/b]: Like everyone else, you will have a chance at rekindling things as kids age, and as your finances improve, and as you can someday look back and feel proud together.

[b]My assessment[/b]: Very few marriages tick all the romance boxes...very few...but you already have the essence of what marriage and family have evolved to being today. This is what you wanted, this is what you get.[/quote]

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