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[quote=Anonymous]I've felt invisible for quite a while. It's disconcerting. I'm only pleasant-looking, but not hot by any means. Until that attention was gone, I didn't realize how much I relied on attention from men, little things as a PP mentioned, getting your water glass filled, the winks from the supermarket check out guy, etc.

It's something you get used to, OP.

I will say that beauty can be a terrible burden, though. My mother was beautiful, then she became ill and lost her looks, and lost everything she had because she had always relied on her looks to carry her through life. It was very sad to see.

Likewise, I have a 50-ish friend who dresses just as she did when she was in her 20s. She's still "dating" and she's still hunting for "the one" although she doesn't really want to get married, she wants to continue this 20-ish life. I guess she's happy, but it seems like such an empty life. She had inherited wealth, so no need for a "provider," but she spends so much time focusing on her looks it's boring to be around her (and this is an Ivy-educated woman, very smart). She always got attention for her looks, and never developed herself in any other way -- no sport, no interests, no volunteering, she held down a job until she received her inheritance, and then quit.

She looks about 35, but that will end, and then what?

I don't dye my hair, don't really work out, so I'm a bit overweight, I make an effort with my appearance, but don't go overboard, rarely wear makeup, but DH still finds me hot!

Best of luck to you, OP. You'll find something to replace all that male attention, and you'll be a better, more interesting person for it. BTW, my older friends are so, so much more intelligent and interesting than my younger ones. They really are wise, and that's a rich and wonderful thing. [/quote]

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