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I am in a much better place as a result of the great perspective and good advice provided here. Thank you.

Thanks for keeping me honest and preventing me from hoodwinking myself into a "how on earth did I get here?" situation.  I was building and rationalizing a plan of action that would have been a recipe for disaster. It helped to read 10+ messages that made that point and countered my various excuses.

The feelings with this other man are so intense that I was willing to go with it.  (That this happens so rarely, is probably testament to my and DH's focus on our relationship and our general and sexual compatibility. For which I should be and am thankful.)

I am more conscious of the distinction between fantasy and fixation in this case. I must be realistic to not seek out time to see him. When I do see him, I need to recall the advice to "batten down the hatches and avoid alcohol." I was building scenarios that would lead to no good, which while awesome fodder for fantasy would damage the relationships I have worked to build and value.  How telling that I first posted this on the explicit forum!

Frankly, I would still like to be with this guy - and leaving that open is exciting. But, I am more clearly aiming for fantasy - the fun and enjoyment, and working to redirect that awesome energy towards my husband.

Wish me luck. [/quote]

Good luck !!!! How is it going??! Remember that you are dealing with some heady stuff. Its hard. Keep your chin up. Check in and let us know!

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