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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I dunno. I'm gonna have to break with the pack a little bit. I think the intention of this letter was to compliment/comfort the OP, to let her know that he's noticed her good qualities. It sounds like it's been a very rough time for this family. The death of a child. An affair.

I don't think that it would be appropriate to mention his affair in the context of this letter. It's supposed to be complimentary. He mentions the lack of recognition of the OP's hard work to make everything nice for everyone. It also sounds like he acknowledges that she has been having a hard time lately, without condemning that.

I get that he's manipulative and I agree that the letter is rambling, but I also feel like it's possible that he is making peace with their marriage being over and telling her, I still think these good things about you, you are still a good person.[/quote]

I agree with the PP above, but also think there's some manipulation/excuse-making/self-serving in there too. There's a lot going on, some probably sincere, some probably less so. I don't agree with PPs talking about "Freudian slips" - there are a number of other typos in the letter and I think "selfishly" was genuinely supposed to be "selflessly." I also agree that he sounds like he might have been drunk when he wrote it. I also agree, having had a run-in with a BPD, that this sort of flowery, sentimental, pretentious nonsense flows easily from their pens/keyboards/whatevers and is not to be taken too seriously. I agree with ALL posters that you should disregard it and move on with your plans.

I am so sorry for what's happened to you, OP. Best wishes.[/quote]

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