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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My single best friend was so bummed when I had girls because she is constantly lamenting the state of men in our society and she thought my husband and I could have raised boys to become amazing men.  Obviously, that is flattering, but also a little silly, I thought.   I wanted daughters, so was happy to have girls, but lately I've  been thinking more about her comment and have often thought how raising sons in this society where expectations, norms and the economy are changing so rapidly would be such a challenge, but also such an amazing opportunity.  The world needs a balance of thoughtful and kind men and women and you can do your part, OP, to bring up three of the kind of men we all want to see more of in the world :)[/quote]

OP again. This has been oh so helpful. I"m glad I posted. Thank you. Glad to also know I'm not the only one who feels this way. I am pretty embarrassed that I do.

As for the PP above. You are totally right. With the passing of Sheryl Sandburg's husband, I thought. "Wow - I want to raise a son like that. Someone who supports his wife, knows housework and child-raising are just as much his job as hers." And, my husband is like this, too. So, I will raise these delightful sons of mine to be like that. And the bonus to having sons who live life with this egalitarian and beautiful life philosophy is that they will probably attract partners who are strong, ambitious and wonderful, too. (And, to PP saying one of my sons might enjoy spas. I get that - one of my sons (or more than one) might be gay. But I don't think it's quite the same!).

I know there are lots of drawbacks to having girls. Personally, I feel fortunate to skip the princess part and the drama part. But I am sad that a bit of me won't live on in a female/potential mother. And I think my husband (although he's more of a realist so he's over it) has said he's sad to not have a little mini-me to watch grow up. That stuff kills me.[/quote]

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