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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound a little over-sensitive, but that's natural for a new parent. I think the issue is more with your husband. If it were me, I'd be telling my DH that I know I'm being sensitive, and that I love how great a Dad he is, but that it really hurts my feelings when his parents keep trying to make him out as the favorite parent. If he's a sensitive guy, he should be able to step in when his parents make this sort of comment and defuse it. "Favorite person? You're crazy--you should see how happy he is to see Larla in the morning." If he's a jerk, you have bigger problems than your in-laws.[/quote]

+1 !!

My son really does prefer his dad when we're out and about together. DS is also pretty shy and anxious around people so he clings to us when friends or relatives are around, and he totally prefers his dad to me in those situations. So people comment all the time about it. It does sound like your in laws are extra obnoxious and insensitive about it, maybe a little over the top. That would bother me too. In my situation, there have only been a handful of comments that were a bit too obnoxious, and dh has responded just like PP has suggested, which is perfect.

Also, to deal with this situation, I sometimes mention that I'm with DS ALL THE TIME (I stay at home), and, like you said OP, ds has always preferred me when he needs to calm down. He's three now actually, and still wants ME to put him to bed, runs to me when he's hurt, and clings to me when DH isn't there, which is most of the time (since he works and I SAH). SO, for one, I enjoy kicking back and taking a break without a little one attached to me and I do mention that from time to time when relatives/friends make comments. It's the truth, and also verifies that my son doesn't think I'm a bad mom  :-)  . Second, people eventually do see that DS runs to me when he's hurt; the grandparents have experienced ds asking for me at bedtime when they babysit. Point is, as time goes by, they will see that your child isn't just a "daddy's boy," and even if he IS in a phase where he only wants his father, your inlaws will see that he loves you equally as much. They'll experience the phases when your son is all about mommy, mommy, and only mommy.

My own mom always always always commented on how ds preferred his father all of the time. Once we were all together at an event, when ds tripped and fell. He immediately came crying to me for comfort. My mother said something like "oh, now I see, he DOES want his mommy." It was so weird, and I hate to admit it, but I felt kind of validated as a mom. Like a silent "in your face, Grandma!" moment.  :P

Not that you should care what you in laws think of course, but I understand why you do care. [/quote]

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