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[quote=Anonymous]I agree that it's fine to make it adults-only, but that doesn't guarantee she will comply, and she still might make a scene. If you want a guarantee of no family drama, elope. Otherwise, put on a smile and prepare to deal with whatever happens.

We went to a small wedding out of town when my child was that age. The wedding couple gently mentioned that it was adults only, but they offered to hire a sitter (someone they could vouch for), so we took them up on the offer. Another guest did bring a baby, who in fact ended up crying loudly during the vows. The bride and groom took it all in stride (at least on the surface!) and the people who ended up looking bad were the parents of the crying child.

If you do end up going adults-only, one kind thing would be to let them know what events might be baby-friendly. (Yes, it's your big day, but the baby will also be a family member, and those gathered might want to have time with him or her. Plus it's a hassle to have event after event where the parents would need a sitter.) So maybe you say the rehearsal dinner would be a great time to see the baby, or maybe a post-wedding brunch. The more welcoming you are, the better. (It doesn't guarantee that SIL will comply without incident, but then you know you did your best.)[/quote]

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