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[quote=Anonymous]I honestly don't get you, OP.  Your daughter has a loving aunt and uncle who remember her birthday with a gift, send her a gift at Christmas, and see her at least once a year.  When they see her they are attentive and loving.  That sounds awesome!!!!  You sound incredibly entitled and frankly a jerk...that is a LOT of generosity and love from an aunt/uncle who are not actually close to their sibling.  They don't live physically close and they're not emotionally close yet they make the effort to be generous and thoughtful.

(As an aside, I send my nephews Amazon gifts every Christmas and birthday.  I take hours to choose each one, trying to find a good one.  The idea that I would get marked off for something like not wrapping the gifts myself makes me physically ill.  But it sounds just like my bitchy SIL to make this conclusion.)

If you want a closer relationship, I think you have a good "in" with the guardianship in the will.  Maybe your DH could start a conversation like, "Candi and I are working on settling our wills and other matters just in case anything happens to us.  There is no one in the world that we trust more to raise our daughter than you two, and we would like to be able to name you as guardians if you would agree.  If we do that, though, we'd really love for Brittani to have a deeper relationship with you.  We would love to visit with you more often but we can't afford to fly to you more than once a year.  Would you consider maybe taking a longer vacation with us each year in Florida when we visit Mom and Dad?  Or maybe we could start a tradition of meeting at a beach house for a long weekend every year?   We would also LOVE it if you would come visit us at our house -- you are welcome any time."

Then invite them often.

FWIW, only one of my many aunts and uncles ever sent me a Christmas present.  A flannel nightgown every year.  It was so incredibly nice of her.  But I still loved my other aunts and uncles and still developed relationships with them even though I typically saw them no more than once a year until I was an adult and visited on my own.  I think your expectations are way out of whack for an aunt and uncle who aren't local.[/quote]

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