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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
troll. If you and your cousin were so close you'd get her beliefs but it sounds all throughout you are ridiculing it and her when you say you don't believe her 'hokum'. keep on keep on troll[/quote]

*sigh* As I said, my cousin, who I grew up with, used to just believe in things like horoscopes and psychics. While I didn't share the same beliefs and found them kooky, it didn't bother me. I have never ridiculed her. About four years ago she married a wiccan woman, became wiccan and now this is all they focus on in their lives. Each time I speak with her there is some new ghost or spirit or paranormal tool. This is why I asked for advice. But you keep on being a jerk, kay?

Thank you everyone else for your advice. I like the thought of having a talk with her and taking the crystal, maybe even getting them a little gift but making it clear that they crossed a line involving my children. Also no cleansing my house.[/quote]

NP here. OP, I'm glad you can see past the jerkish posts. Please do tell your cousin nicely but firmly that telling your seven-year-old there was a ghost in the house caused  problems that YOU had to deal with, and you are asking her not to discuss ghosts, spirits, tarot, with your children at all. Point out that you and your husband, not cousin and wife, must pick up the pieces when your still very young children are upset by the thought of ghosts or spirits.

Be prepared for resistance. If cousin then protests along any lines of "Ghosts are real, the kids need to know for their own protection" or so on, you will have to be prepared to be stronger and add that you do want your kids to see her and her wife, but you are again asking that they not bring up these topics with the children at all, and they need to honor your request regarding YOUR children. If they really still can't grasp it or argue with you, I'd tell them that you are always glad to see them but it will need to be when your kids are not around, until they can assure you they are going to honor your request that topics of the paranormal are out of bounds with your kids.

This is your prerogative as the parent. It's not a rejection of their religion (though they may see it that way and try to paint you as bigoted or cruel). It's a parent deciding what young children should be exposed to, period. That is part of your job as a parent.

I would ensure that the kids are never alone with them, even if they do agree to stop talking about these things in front of the kids-- just because if the cousin and wife really do bring up these topics in every single conversation about anything, you probably cannot really trust them to filter what they say.

Regarding the party invitation - you are never obliged to invite anyone to anything. Don't let their snit make you hesitate next time you want to host an event. If you don't invite them and they later find out and act hurt, you need to say coolly, "I'm sorry you feel that way, but this party was for primarily work and church friends." Then change the topic.
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