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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not write an email and I probably wouldn't bring it up if you've already had that discussion. They know your beliefs on this matter.

I don't know your parents but if they're like most grandparents they will spoil their grandchildren and that means they'll probably be more flexible with the meals once they are the ones in charge. I would call after the first day the kids stay there and ask about meal time. If at that point they are being rigid and forcing them to eat all the beets in the plate then at that point I would express my beliefs again. If they show themselves to be inflexible and your children are having a difficult time during meals then I would pick up the kids early.

My MIL and I have butted head about these kind of things, but over time we've both become more flexible about what the kids eat whether they are at her place or at home.[/quote]

Yeah, that's the problem. They combine the worst of all worlds. Force feed the beets and offer candy and dessert constantly. But also, I think the problem is I have never tried to explain my beliefs to them. They really do not understand. I have just always assumed they would not understand no matter what I said, and have tried to protect myself by not bothering. But now I'm questioning whether I need to take that risk, for my kids' sake. [/quote]
Honestly, there really is no point in trying to explain. It's going to make both sides defensive and upset over what really does not have to be a big deal.
I say this as middle-aged person with a diverse pallet, but was an EXTREMELY picky eater as a kid. As a kid, there were times I was made to eat a few things I did not like and it did not kill me. Other times, I just would not eat, if what was being offered was not to my liking. That did not kill me either. Don't over think it, seriously, they will all be fine. Your kids will eat stuff for them, they never have with you and they will also eat some crap you would never dream of giving them. They will have a great adventure with their GP''s and your parents will realize that dealing with picky eaters is not as simple as they thought. RELAX!  
If they love your kids and you trust that they will not MISTREAT them, then let them find their way together. [/quote]

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