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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two weeks of eating what Grandma says is not likely to ruin your two years of parenting.

As frustrating as it is, I would let it go and embrace this as an opportunity to teach your children about politeness and respecting authority. "When in Grandma's house, Grandma's rules apply." [/quote]

Op here. That is the approach I've been taking. Questioning whether it is a cop out and I am doign my kids a disservice.[/quote]

I agree with the PP you quoted.  Your kids will be fine for two weeks.  [/quote]

I agree too.

By doing your kids a disservice, do you mean that you're worried their eating will be ruined when they come back to you or that your parents will be so unreasonable that the children will be unnecessarily unhappy? In either case, working out a way of explaining to them that the rules at Grandma's house are different than home will probably help.

I have a scenario that's different from yours, but where that approach has come in handy. Love my ILs, but their views of feeding children are quite different from mine. MIL will make endless offerings of "kid food" for my incredibly picky niece who lives locally, even if child says ok for one thing but then changes her mind once it's served. Nana will start cooking again. Vs. at our house, the child eats the same meal we do - she has to at least try everything, but we don't force her to eat any amount beyond that if she doesn't want to. (And will reintroduce it in later meals to get her used to the taste, etc.) She gets dessert regardless if it's part of the planned meal. But at the IL's they feed her a ton of dessert and snacks and "kid friendly" food (lots of processed stuff). It's a visit, so in the grand scheme of things it's no big deal, but we've had to make clear to 3yo dd that what happens at Nana's stays at Nana's and she has always been fine switching back to regular mealtimes with normal food (and no endless flow of dessert, ha!)

The only thing we asked for and they've been super cooperative about is to not feed her meat since we're vegetarian.[/quote]

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