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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Like most two-sided stories, the truth probably lies somewhere in the middle.

I feel for the OP because it sounds like he has some very legitimate gripes  and it definitely sounds like the wife contributes her fair share to the unhealthy dynamic he describes--no intimacy in 5 years, sharp-tongued condescension--can both wear a person down.

Man here (FWIW, just for context purposes) - one thing that stuck out to me was OP's statement "She has a right to be pissed, but you either believe in your partner or you don't."  The first half strikes me as an (cursory) acknowledgement of her "right to be pissed" but definitely doesn't seem very empathetic.  In other words, it doesn't sound like OP has made much of an effort to really digest what she's feeling and put himself in her shoes.  The latter part of the statement seems problematic because it's so black-and-white--"you either believe in your partner or you don't."  It's entirely possible that she believes in OP as a husband, "good person", father etc., but doesn't necessarily believe in him as a business owner at this point.   When co-mingled finances are involved, she has the right to that opinion--albeit it sounds like she expresses it in a tough way.

The last statement reminds of Robert Griffin III ("RG3" QB of the Redskins) when he talks about "haters" and "doubters" who don't believe in him.  RG3 has said all the right things throughout his career, but his results on the field have been mixed.  Now, heading into Year 4, people want him to put up or shut up.  He uses the same "you're either with me or against me" logic, and categorizes anyone who questions his abilities as a doubter or hater.  People want this kid to succeed, and if he doesn't that doesn't make him a bad person, but Redskins fans aren't going to wait around indefinitely based on his spoken word or potential.

My point is, it sounds like OP has attached a whole lot of time, money, and energy towards his business--with mixed results.  His wife is, in part, reacting to this, but OP takes it as a personal slight ("she doesn't believe in me") even though the results impact his wife too.[/quote]

I hope OP sees this comparison, because I think it's spot-on.[/quote]

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