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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just need to vent...

Why are playdates so annoying?  I feel like I'm always arranging playdates for my kids, but its rarely reciprocated.  I don't want to hear "we're busy" because I'm busy, too.  I work and my kids have activities 6 out of 7 days a week.  We have a lot going on all of the time, but I manage to find pockets of time for playdates.

Then, I scheduled a playdate and specifically told the parent that they needed to pick at a 4pm because we had a violin lesson at 4:30.  The playdate started at 1:30, so it was plenty of time for the kids to play.  The parent shows up late.  WTF...  complete disregard for my schedule.  And to top it off the playdate comes over at 1:30 and asks "what's for lunch."  My DD says that she already ate lunch.  She said she didn't eat lunch yet and her dad was going to "kill her if she didn't eat lunch here."  We gave her a sandwich, but who sends a kid over to someone else's house at 1:30 without feeding them first?

And, on the flip, my DD goes to her friends house for a playdate which her mom scheduled from 11am to 2pm.  I [b]assumed[/b] they would feed my DD lunch, since that is the typical time for lunch.  Nope.  I should never assume anything.  My DD came home cranky and starving.  She had a popsicle in all of 3 hours.  Next time I will surely ask if lunch will be offered otherwise I will need to pick up.

[b]Its just all of these inconsiderate parents that make playdates so annoying!!  [/b]I'm so sick of it.  I will be taking a break from hosting playdates for awhile.

I don't even care that much that I am always hosting because at least I am monitoring what my kids are doing and who they are hanging out with.   And I know where they are.  But it would be nice for my kids to get invited sometimes, too.

So annoying!!!   [/quote]

+10000

Mother of older elementary here.  OP, in our house it was the neighbors that are annoying.  Their parents are (for all intents and purposes) "free range" - at an age that is far too young.  The parents had too many kids, more than they could handle, and keep trying for more.  When I am home with my family, I am home with my family - NOT to watch your "bored" child that you are not interested in (and probably locked out of the house!)

What you described, and what I have experienced, is not the norm, as far a "real" friends.  Real friends reciprocate, and accommodate.  They don't expect you to host, drive, feed or provide activities all the time; it is no big deal for them to host.  In sum, they are NOT lazy. It really is a wonder how some people tie their own shoes (the parents!) Did you say how old your children are?  You will meet some nice, normal parents who are on the same page so to speak, along the way.

FWIW, I have noticed through the years that the lazy parents don't have children who are used to playdates and socializing.  I'lll leave it at that.

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