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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Surprised no one has mentioned porn addiction, that also kills a libido. My ex had a million excuses for not being in the mood. I later found "signs" of him masturbating frequently and began to peel back the layers of the onion. [/quote]

Guy here - this is a much larger issue than most people realize.  It's also causing an ED epidemic in young men.[/quote]

The science on this is sketchy. But, in our anti-sex culture, it fulfills a desired narrative. So, you'll get sites like "your brain on porn" evangelizing about how porn addiction is the scourge of our youth. In earlier generations, it was automobiles, rock & roll music, and even comic books that threatened our young people. Anxiety about sex plus anxiety about kids is a potent combination that will never fail to find a receptive audience. [/quote]

huh? is this supposed to be some attempt at a 'sex positive' post?  are you a 23 year old college student by any chance?

and what do "young people" have to do with 50 year old men with porn compulsions who get dumped finally by their wives? [/quote]

PP said "it's causing an ED epidemic in young men." That's why I referred to young people. And the science of porn addiction really isn't solid. See: 
http://skepticwars.blogspot.com/2014/02/porn-addictive-theres-no-proof.html

"The literature on porn addiction is really fractured. There are an awful lot of pop media claims that get embroiled into what literature there is on porn addiction. It is not a very heavily scientifically driven field. One of the things I find significant is that in a recent review of basically all research on pornography, they found that less than 1 percent of the 40,000 articles that they looked at were deemed scientifically or empirically useful. The literature is weighted with moral and cultural values. There are tons and tons of theoretical statements that are made but never evaluated. The exact same thing is true for what literature there is on porn addiction. The media, the public and, unfortunately, clinicians and legal professionals are subject to the very heavy weight of all that unscientific literature. "

Your response illustrates the phenomenon. People are just convinced it must be true - probably in large part because of our cultural relationship to sex. So, rather than evaluating the issue critically, people like you just launch into hostility. (E.g., the gratuitous use of "huh" and questioning my age for some reason.) Maybe pornography is addictive. But our belief that it is addictive is based more on cultural prejudice than scientific research. [/quote]

You sound very defensive...almost like someone who uses a lot of porn but doesn't want to admit he has a problem...

In an event, I'm not sure what the empirical evidence shows, but the reality is that there are more and more women divorcing their husbands who stop having sex w/ them because they're frequently masturbating to porn.  So, whether the men are actual addicts or not doesn't really matter, does it?[/quote]

"You sound defensive." -- Immediately resorting to social pressure to take an anti-porn stance. Nice illustration of what scientists skeptical of the alleged negative affects of porn face.

As to your second paragraph - I don't know for a fact that women who, in the absence of available porn, would have stayed with their husbands are now divorcing the men because of porn. But, I do agree that in a situation where a wife is trying to have sex with her husband but is being rebuffed because he's jerking off, that's a problem and, addiction or no, he should figure out a way to shake off the porn and respond to his wife's efforts.

My personal situation is that I use quite a bit of porn, but only because my wife turns me down a lot. Porn probably helps our situation because I'm less agitated by the rejection and she doesn't have to put up with me trying to have sex with her quite as much. Now, if I found out she was using a bunch of porn and masturbating a lot while rejecting me, that would lead to serious problems in our marriage. [/quote]

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