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[quote=Anonymous]I'm the PP who detailed my experience in trying the Gottman book.  I recommended it because it works for me.  He is one of the most respected marriage therapists, because of his extensive research, so I imagine you see his recommendation a lot because he works.

For us -- the book was a quick read.  It isn't anything earth shattering, but it provides a framework.  The reading isn't the commitment -- instead, the IMPLEMENTING is where the real work is.

For us, we now set aside 15-30 minutes per evening to walk through a plan for getting things done.  I try really hard to communicate as Gottman recommends, and I know my husband tries really hard too.  During this time, we are consciously working on our communication styles (and avoiding fights over stupid things).

I've found that after  months of this, these communication tips are becoming more natural and we are using them outside of our "set" time and that things are just better all around because we're both implementing the changes that he recommends.  [/quote]

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