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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whether you "turn on" the boyfriend to new things or not you still should seek some therapy OP.  You have a very expectation-based view of your life and that type of outlook will only set you up either for disappointment from things not happening the way you planned or disappointment because you missed out on something that could have been great but shunned it because it didn't align with your rigid expectations.  [b]Suppose your boyfriend opens up to new sexual ideas on his own...suppose he's, in fact, doing the exact same damn thing you're doing and hiding his freaky side in favor of getting to know you.[/b]  What happens on your honeymoon when the freak in him comes out?  You gonna lose all respect for him and get a divorce right away?

There is a difference between expectations and possibilities OP.  Expectations are stiff and rigid and assume a future result that is in no way guaranteed. Being tied to expectations in relationships you essentially hold your present sense of well-being hostage to a future that may or may not happen.  Possibilities on the other hand are flexible and manageable and based on the ever-changing present moment.  Being open to possibilities allows you to acknowledge and accept the fact that things change and gives you the ability to adapt and respond to that change rather than react to it and run from it.  Strong relationships are rooted in the idea of exploring life together, not rooted in the concept of sticking to a strict itinerary and abandoning the journey altogether if things go awry.[/quote]

DH's virgin aunt left her husband on their wedding night because the groom requested a blow job. She had the marriage annulled. :P [/quote]

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