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[quote=Anonymous]How much have you pressured her throughout her childhood to do well academically?  How much have you focused on college as a goal?  As both a parent and an educator, I can absolutely tell you that it's astounding and depressing how many well-meaning parents subtly (or not so subtly) drive this point so far into the ground, their kids develop an inherent fear that they will never measure up, so best not to try.

Not saying somehow I'm sure that's what's happening with your child (I obviously don't know you or your child) but this is SUCH a common occurrence.  Parents feel like they're doing what they're supposed to do and talk about it and reinforce the focus on academics again and again.  This works well for some children and their personalities, but it can also make even really smart, capable children totally shy away from trying.  It can be a set up for failure.

Think about how much this has been a theme throughout your kids life, and maybe back off for awhile,, or have more conversations exploring what his/her main interests are?  Tell them you want to support their interests?  Sometimes saying that (and meaning it!  Not just lip service to it) can create a little space and your kid may come back around to college on their own.

Self-sufficiency is still an important goal to talk to your child about, maybe talk about how you can support them in work they are interested in, still looking at self-sufficiency?[/quote]

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