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[quote=Anonymous]Your son is an adult.  A young adult, but an adult.  He may still be in high school, but he is not a child any longer.  I would let him know that you love him and care for him and want to support him, but that there are minimum requirements for living in your home and for having his education financed.  One of those is that he follow your house rules.  The other is that he not do drugs.  (I also like the idea of weekly drug testing.)

If he is positive, he can get rehab or he can move out.  Let him know he will always be welcome to return if he is clean or if he wants help getting clean.

College might not be in the cards for him next year.  That's okay.   It's more important for him to be okay and to get his life straightened out.

My brother was down a deep, dark drug road and dropped out of high school at 16.  He moved away and lived with my aunt a few hours away, got his GED, got a scholarship to technical school, and became a mechanic.  It was the BEST thing he ever did.  He probably would have died in a few years if he stayed on the path he was on.  Instead, he got a job making more than double what I made out of college.

Start treating your son like an adult and see what happens.  He gets to choose what he wants his life to be.  you get to choose the conditions under which you will provide continued housing and financial support.  Make those clear to him and let him choose.[/quote]

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