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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My father is 89 and in poor health.  He can walk only very short distances (like around their ranch style house).  We went on a cruise with our 3.5 yo twins and even though he spent most of the time in his wheelchair, he loved interacting with his twin grandchildren.  One thought that grandpa's lap was his personal seat.  We would go on excursions and he would stop us so that he could climb up into grandpa's lap and ride around (the other wanted to walk, but rode in grandpa's lap when he was tired of walking).  I think my dad kind of wore himself out trying to play with the kids, pull them up into his lap (I asked him not to, but he insisted he was able to help them up).  My dad can't really read to his grandkids very well since his eyesight is not so great anymore.  He can read for a short time like menus and short things, but a whole book, even a children's book is a little much of a strain.  But he plays with them and he listens when they babble at him about 19 different topics in 12 seconds.  And they take pride that they "show" grandpa all the interesting things he's not paying attention to.  The three of them have a blast together and mostly Dad just sits and lets the kids "drive".   At this stage in their life, they want adult attention and he's got plenty of that to give. [/quote]

Is there a point to this beyond showing how OP how awesome your dad is in comparison, despite physical challenges?

Didn't think so.[/quote]

Yes, the point is that "playing" can take different forms.  Why not suggest that they watch TV together?  If that's what Dad does, then maybe make an exception to the "No TV" rule by letting them watch TV.  For my kids, even climbing up and down the couch while Grandpa watches TV would be fun as long as Grandpa would listen to them babble while they do so.  If he can multitask, by watching TV and acting like he's paying attention to his granddaughter, they might get a long.  My kids and their grandfather worked out a way for them to interact while even though he can't physically play with them.  All it takes is giving them a little attention and letting them play.  OP's father may not understand this and think that he has to actually interact with the granddaughter.  My kids will be enthusiastic if you look at them and occasionally say "Yes, that's right."  or "That's so good!" etc.[/quote]
I have no problem with this but FIL struggles with it. [/quote]

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