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So it sounds as if children is the sticking point. You don't mind the wife, but you do mind the kid hassle.

[b]I can't imagine that any man or woman would regret the children they have begotten[/b]. Of course kids make you get out of your selfish mode, of course they're a ton of work. But... they're also a joy. As babies they have cute giggles and coos. As little kids they trust you and look up to you and say they love you and that you're the best in the world. Then they hate you. Then, if you've done your job right, they come back and ask for professional advice, ask for parenting advice, and say thank you for raising me right. And you get grandchildren if you're lucky, who you can spoil rotten like you never did with your kids.

If that doesn't appeal to you, I suggest you make it quite clear to your partner. So many threads on DCUM dealing with frustrated women who somehow thought their boyfriend who didn't want kids would change his mind...[/quote]

If they didn't want them, of course they regret having them. It's just not accepted, on a social level, that one feels like that. And, of course, the child must never, ever know that his or her parent feels that way because s/he didn't ask to be born. It would be terrible to let a child know that s/he's considered a mistake.

That's why no one should have children "because that's what people do".

Children must be wanted, cherished, and be the number one priority in your life.

Otherwise, don't have them. No one is holding a machine gun to your back and telling you it's a choice between reproduction or being gunned down.[/quote]

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