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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think as long as someone is honest with themselves about who they are, and are comfortable witht that, then beating to your own drummer is the on,y way to live your own life.

Yes, many people end up feeling regret, or at least pangs of it later in life. I have friends for whom it rings both ways - people who got married and children because that was the narrative of the times, and those who ended up childless and single, who later wished they did it another way. I think this is part off the normal human experience - to think a little about the other side of the fence. I think there's still definitely a lot of pressure to fill the "marry, breed" path, and that people don't understand that folks can be happy travelling a more singlular path.

I have an amazing artist friend. She is EVERYTHING a man (or woman) would want. She's extremely smart, funny, creative, beautiful, etc. etc. One of those people who lights up a room just by walking in. And as it were, she is also a lifelong "old maid". People who don't know her tsk tsk behind her back about how it's such a shame she never "found a man to make an honest woman of her", "she would be such a wonderful mother", etc.

On the inside of it, I can tell you, there is no man (or woman) that would complete her life any more than she has competed her own. She is a whirlwind of energy, volunteering, doing her art, sometimes doing nothing at all but staring at the rain on the window. She has (and has) Had some FWB type relationships (this woman is in her 60s now), but is always honest about her expectations (none). And in that, she is completely content with how she lives her life. She is unapologetic about her life choice, and it's always a lesson to me: to just live your life and OWN IT. to me, that's the key.

I'm sure she has the odd moment of wondering what "might have been", but her life is what she has made it. And that's really what everyone needs to do. [/quote]

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