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[quote=Anonymous]Just another voice here to say that you should take time to process all of this and not make immediate decisions.

Ultimately, you are going to have to decide if YOU feel cheating is some ultimate unforgivable sin.  Society portrays it that way, but at least to me, I see it as a human frailty, no different than any other selfish decision people make in relationships.  (I would rather DW cheat on me than gamble the kids' college fund away, for example).

Another way to look at it - 50% of marriages end in divorce, approximately 50% of people have cheated on their spouses at some point.  Accounting for overlap, it is safe to say that the majority of couples who say "I do" in their 20s and 30s will not remain faithful till death do us part.  Many people believe their spouses have been faithful and live in ignorant bliss, as you would have done if the OW hadn't maliciously contacted you with the sole intent of making you and your DH as miserable as she apparently is.

Not excusing cheating of course, but if you understand how common it is, perhaps you will see it as just one of many human failings.  You are certainly entitled to see this as a dealbreaker (especially without children), but I sometimes wonder if its a little naive to expect that the next relationship will be free of infidelity as well.

Best of luck.

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