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[quote=Anonymous]OP, at first I reacted negatively to your article. I am still close with my best friend from K 40 years later!

But then I got to thinking and you have definitely touched on something. This was much more my way when I was younger and less stable and was completely tolerant of unstable people as well. I remember a close friend acting crazy once, she was mad I had a boyfriend so she was giving me the cold shoulder and then trying to make me jealous by bringing a new friend by my work etc.

I kindly told her she had to stop acting like that or she would have no friends at her wedding (eventual) that she had known for more than six months. Fast forward I eventually couldn't take it anymore and cut off ties with her. I did this with quite a few unstable friends as I got older and my tolerance for drama waned. And to be honest, a good friend dropped me, so maybe she thought I was too much drama for her.

Meanwhile, I have made a wonderful core of female friends, the longest term one whom I've known for 15 years.

The secret to male friendships is shared activities -- sports, poker, whatever whereas women always act like other women have to get them emotionally, relate to them, agree with them on politics, parenting etc. and guys don't freakin care (for the most part).

So now I put a lot less pressure eon female friendships and I let my girlfriends be who they are and just enjoy them and I don't care if they're liberal or conservative or drink or don't or eat meat or don't exercise or whatever. If we have a good time together, and they are kind and loyal -- that's enough.
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