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[quote=Anonymous]So, it sounds like your DH is also a little upset with you for not wanting to be Catholic.  This might be the root of the problem.

I think you need to give a little and then expect them to give a little, too.  If you're giving off a "I won't go to mass" and "I don't agree with Catholicism" vibe, then they probably feel a bit defensive.  You fell in love with your DH, right?  He's a good person, right?  So, it can't be all horrible.

Even if DH doesn't actively believe in it anymore, it probably was a major formative thing for him, and you should respect that.  It's been a part of his life for longer than you have, and you can't just expect it to go away overnight.  Respecting it a little might help.  Even if he is ready to give it up, he might not want to feel forced to give it up or feel like you are ragging on his upbringing and religion.

Would it hurt you to attend a mass once in a while?  Wouldn't it be okay if your kids when to a mass with their grandparents when they are visiting?  It sounds like you are Christian, and the teachings aren't THAT different that it would really make a huge difference if your kids went to one or two masses in their lives.  I'm not saying you should change your beliefs or encourage anyone to be Catholic but just that it would go a long way if you attempted to understand where they are coming from.  They probably feel like you are expecting them to give, give, give and not attempting to give a little in return.[/quote]

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