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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]what if it's really his fault - like he let a harmless roller get through his legs? or a penalty goal on a handball call on him? you can't honestly blame the TEAM for that!!![/quote]

What happened to the defense on the harmless roller?  And who committed the penalty in the box?  There were a series of events that led to the "harmless" roller and the penalty kick.  What about trhew offensive opportunities that your team squandered?  Why couldn't they mark guys in the box and get the ball cleared?  You cannot ignore that.  The outcome of a game is decided by a cumulative series of events during the game - not one event.  [/quote]

Who has the standard of perfection at 9? Well- yea- my son does too and we and his coach are working hard  to put things in perspective  for him. He is his own biggest critic.

Every single player---even frickin' Lionel Messi- will make mistakes.  When they are young and learning it's even more important to use it as a teaching moment and not negatively blame.

My son is a striker that scores an insane amount of goals but he knows it took every player on his team to get that ball up to him. Thankfully, the kids on his team are all incredibly supportive of one another and know that. I always make sure to tell the goalie--hey-it's not your fault! Good try, etc. the kids always pat each other on the back after disappointments and hug or high-5/backslap for great plays.  A good coach and good parents would not tolerate their child making negative, snotty comments to a teammate.

When a forward whiffs the ball and misses a goal they don't seem to take the same heat as a goalie that misses a blocked shot.  My heart bleeds for goalies and their parents:).  That's a high-pressure position. Poor guy. Try to relate to his disappointment but don't dwell on it.  And- most of all- that he's loved ni matter what happens on the field.  [/quote]

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