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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]9yo DS's soccer team last weekend lost a tournament game when he gave up the tying and winning scores while in goal.  He felt disappointed and responsible, more so when a teammate made a mean comment to him.  I can't help but feel sad that he feels sad.  I keep thinking, these types of disappointments will happen more and more often as the kids get older.  How do I learn to let it go and not empathize so much?  [/quote]

Coach here: The other kid making a mean comment needs to be addressed. Even in the hint of frustration, that is unacceptable, and it sows ill will on a team. You win together, you lose together. There's never just ONE play that changes the outcome of a game, especially in a team sport.[/quote]

OP here: The assistant coach addressed it in the moment with the other kid.  I haven't pursued it further bc I don't want to be a helicopter mom, but is there more I should be doing?  Should I make sure the main coach knows it happened?  Not sure what the coaches would do because they're not coddling types, KWIM?  Should I mention it to the kid's mom?  I considered that because if my kid was being a douchebag, I think I'd want to know about it. But I haven't done it because, again, I don't want to be overreacting.[/quote]

PP coach here.  Give the coaches the first opportunity to handle it.  If anything, you can follow up with the assistant coach to ask how it was handled.  But I would not approach the other parent about just yet. [/quote]

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