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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People with good character don't sleep with married men.

Justify it all you want. The other woman lacks integrity and is disrespecting the family just like the husband is.[/quote]

This is it. It isn't either/or - both shoulder blame. Remember the golden rule.[/quote]
The Golden Rule is flawed.

There is no question of integrity when no promises have been made. OW doesn't owe you any respect. It is pointless to expect it.[/quote]

This is incorrect.  [b]Marriage is not simply a private institution, it is also a public/civic one.  That is why the government recognizes it legally.  Indeed, being the OW or OM was traditionally actionable at common law, although that action is largely not viable anymore in the age of no-fault divorce. [/b] Still, I think most would agree that people have some level of civic duty not to damage the marriages of others.

I don't understand why it is controversial that both parties in this situation have done something wrong.[/quote]

You mean marriage as in ownership agreement? This is what it has been historically: Fathers sold off their daughters (means of reproduction) for a doury. Or do you think today's white wedding customs were just made up on a whim? There is a reason some brides' parents still consider it their duty to pay for their daughters weddings.

Unless you see your spouse as private property, you have no moral (formerly legal) grounds to act on OW. [i]He[/i] broke his promises, so [i]he[/i] needs to sort out his mess. She's free to do as she pleases. [/quote]

Do you actually know anything about this topic, or are you just reciting talking points you read somewhere?

In any event, you are wrong on the merits. Once can legitimately have an interest in a relationship that is subject to legal protection without viewing the other party as "private property."  For instance, tortious interference with contract rights in the business setting is legally actionable in many jurisdictions.  I would respectfully submit that the view that there is nothing morally wrong about sleeping with someone else's spouse is rather a minority view, and one that doesn't make much sense.  [/quote]

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