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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have this discussion with my wife all the time.  In my mind, if you're complaining about something, it is a problem.  The whole point of a problem is to solve it - I don't get why you would want to discuss it, nurture it, and have someone agree that it is a problem when you could try to eliminate it.  Seems like a big waste of time and mental energy - but, that's what she wants, so I try.  not always successfully, but I try.

Perhaps it's self-confidence - if I think there is a problem, I really don't care if anyone agrees with me.  I think it's a problem, so it's a problem.  DO women not feel that way?  [/quote]
This is how some people cope with 'unsolvable' problems. They get it out so to speak, discuss how they feel about it and then feel better. That is the solution. It's not really a sign of lack of self confidence. Some might say keeping stuff inside that bothers you is silly or stupid- everyone has their own way of dealing with things, the judgement isn't necessary. 
People use their spouses for these conversations because that's usually who you are closest to.
OP's husband needs to work on his people skills, because refusing to work with your spouse on an issue and stubbornly continuing to do things his way because it's 'right' isn't effective towards achieving the ultimate goal of a good marital relationship (assuming that's what they both want).[/quote]

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