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[quote=Anonymous]I knew people who grew up with the word "stupid" not being allowed to be said in their household. As in, one sibling could not say to another "you're stupid." That wasn't a rule in the house where I grew up, but I do think the same rule can be instituted about conversations about feelings.

I don't think the phrases "you're overreacting" or "why are you so mad/upset" or "calm down" should ever be used between adult partners, unless one asks whether they are being unreasonable/need to calm down, etc.  I express this expectation to anyone I'm dating the first time it comes up, if it does. People feel how they feel, and they can't control it anyway, except how they behave in response to it.

I'm pretty measured, emotionally so if I do get really worked about something, I do not appreciate having it brushed off. I don't choose to have relationships with people I think are generally irrational, so I don't feel the need to respond to them that way, either. If my partner is expressing frustration, I assume it's valid, so I listen without diminishing it. If you married someone who you think generally overreacts, that's your own damn problem. If you didn't, and you know they aren't prone to overreactions, hear them out.

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