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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is what girlfriends are for.[/quote]

+1. When my wife tells me stuff, I assume there is a point to the exercise - that she wants me to do something with the information she is conveying. If she just wants me to absorb sound, it seems like a waste of time. The wall would be just as effective at having sound waves bounce off. [/quote]

Walls can't hug or look you in the eye.  My husband is exactly like you.  The solution we found is when I feel that way, I tell him, look, I just need to vent for five minutes. I don't need you to solve it, just to listen and then empathize, ok? Then I vent. Then he hugs me and says, sounds like a bummer, I know you can handle it though.  Five minutes invested into harmony seems like a good deal to both of us.

They key is to give heads up so his mind doesn't rush down the path of solving it. [/quote]

Perhaps weirdly, I always feel like I'm being patronizing to my wife if I just say "sounds bad" or whatever. Of course it sounds bad. She doesn't need me to tell her that. [/quote]
Your wife is a better judge of what she needs you to tell her. If she says she needs you to say XYZ to feel better, it's not your place to question it. At its core, women just want to feel they are not alone, that's all.  They are quite capable of figuring out what the solution might be, if one is needed. [/quote]

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