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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're probably driving him crazy too. If you don't stop you'll drive him right out of your life. I'm pretty sure he's aware of what he's doing.

If this were a man posting about his wife's eating habits there would be replies screaming CONTROL !!  He's controlling your life !

Same thing. If that's the only thing your husband does wrong, count your blessings.

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OP here - I realize this.  It's not my choice, he's not my child etc.  The reason it bothers me is that in the longer run I'll have to deal with a sick etc husband (we're in my 30s now but it always catches up to you eventually)....but I realize my nagging is not helpful and is probably harmful.  And my being annoyed by it annoys me so I want to stop

So my main question is how do I stop caring.  Whatever it is that used to bother you about your spouse, has anyone successfully been able to figure out a way to just decide to stop the cycle of caring about it / being annoyed with them etc[/quote]

OP again, I guess to be abundantly my question is not how do I change HIM but how do I change ME.  Regardless of the issue[/quote]

OP, do you have anxiety issues? Getting this upset about something that's having no evident current impact, and all of the impact is in some future hypothetical that may not even come to pass (he might change his ways once his healthy is impacted, or might be one of those lucky people who never see negative impact from these choices) kind of screams anxiety disorder.[/quote]
No it doesn't. She's looking at the logical conclusion of this. Who wants to be a nursemaid for someone who didn't take care of himself when he could? She has good reason to be annoyed. She is self aware enough to know she can't change him, only herself so she's looking for help on how to do that. She doesn't seem overly anxious at all.[/quote]

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