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[quote=Anonymous]OP - another DIL here with long distance in-laws and local family (and a similar photo situation).  In our case, my in-laws live far away but never come to visit (they can afford it - they take three big vacations to exotic locales every year).  My parents see my kids every week.  My in-laws see them once a year.  My parents also paid for professional family photos with all of us for their Christmas card.  It really is a matter of us having lots of pictures of the kids with my parents and none of the kids with my in-laws.  I wouldn't assume the intention is malicious.  More importantly, I'd make an effort to show you care - both about the pictures and about the relationship with your grandchild.  Make a point of taking a ton of pictures when you are together, and framing them and giving them to your son and DIL.  It's pretty easy to make a photo book - make one of your side of the family for your grandson.  You could do one to document the trip or do an alphabet book or something with family members.  And - this is a big one - make a point of having a ton of photos of your son's whole family at your home.  The only picture my FIL has of our older DC in his home is one I printed and framed for him.  He doesn't have a single picture of our younger DC or me displayed and the only ones of my DH are from when he was younger (meanwhile there are tons of new pictures of him and his GF from their travels).  In addition, my FIL never printed and framed a single picture from our wedding.  In fact when I ask him if he wanted any prints, he said no, and I made a photo book of the wedding for both sets of parents which I have never seen anywhere at my FIL's home (my parents still keep theirs on the coffee table ten years later).  His ambivalence to our kids make me much less motivated to put in effort to take and display pictures of them.  I am not saying this is your situation, but I think showing you care and taking steps to rectify it will go a long way with your DIL.  If I were her, I'd be so sad to know how sad you are.[/quote]

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