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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are members of an ethnic minority and I regard teachers who refuse to pronounce/learn my child's name as engaging in a form of micro-aggression.  Here's an interesting article to read:
https://www.academia.edu/192884/Kohli_R._and_Sol%C3%B3rzano_D._2012_Teachers_please_learn_our_names_Racial_Microagressions_and_the_K-12_Classroom._Race_Ethnicity_and_Education
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I get this, but at the same time, I have seen this happen with names commonly found in the US. Not only Carolyn/Caroline as above, but Laura/Lauren, John/Jon, Joanne/Joanna, and lots of other examples. My relative named Laura is constantly being called Lauren. [b]I think some people just aren't very good at remembering names.[/b]
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As someone with one of these names-- Anna/Anne-- my feeling is that people are careless and it is a very, very poor reflection on a person if they interact with you regularly (or SEE your name written on a regular basis) and nonetheless call you by the wrong name. People who do this, defend yourselves please because I'd like to understand, but when someone is writing an e-mail to Anna S., and it's a colleague I interact with on a regular basis, if you address me as Anne in person and written communication-- even after initial corrections-- it makes me see you as self-absorbed and like I am pretty much worth nothing to you. (Which could be true. But this is not what I personally like to convey to my colleagues, neighbors, and certainly not to a young child.) And I have nothing against the name Anne!

My 2 yr old gets REALLY indignant when people call her by a nickname she does not like. If your child is going to be there for much longer, I would mention it. If not, I would leave with a bad taste in my mouth about that school. (And I have two kids with foreign names. No teacher has ever gotten their names wrong (to be fair, they've only had 4, but still). In fact, it's clear to me that they've gone to great lengths ahead of time to memorize the names on their lists so that they know the kids names from day 1.)

-someone who recently accidentally called an adult neighbor Caroline, realized belatedly that her name was Carolyn, and felt like a jerk, not because I don't think she's used to it, but because she likely is[/quote]

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