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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Holy shit, if my kid said that her entire world would stop. "How would you feel if all the kids with the coolest toys wouldn't let you play because you're white? We are all the same on the inside. We all bleed red blood. Our own president is black. You really wouldn't play with his daughters because they have dark skin?"

I would make it VERY clear RIGHT AWAY that we don't treat people poorly or ignore them because of how they are born! [/quote]

If you do this to a 3.5 year old, the kid will stop sharing his weird thoughts but won't stop having them. If your goal is to raise a loving, reasonable person who can see that skin color is not relevant to a person's worth, you won't freak out on the kid. That's the worst thing you can do.

Oh, and to the hate speech poster. Get a grip.  Preschoolers sometimes say they don't like any kid who is a boy or who is a girl. That doesn't make them inherent sexists.  This kid has friends and role models who aren't white. He's not about to launch a hate campaign. He's apparently heard an adult or an older child say something terrible and he's trying to figure it out. He does want to know how his parents will react to his statements but screaming at him won't help. My white kindergartener, and many other young children, is so confused by the idea that anyone ever would or ever has treated people differently based on their skin that he keeps trying to figure out why. It makes no sense to him because it is nonsensical. The OP's young child isn't evil. [/quote]

Wrong. My kid is now 12 and she shares all kinds of shit with me, both important and mundane and we have deep talks regularly. She is a loving, reasonable person despite the fact that I do not allow her to exclude people on the basis of how they were born. We talk about race, and we do not use hate speech. [/quote]

She's 12. You keep suggesting that OP is somehow allowing or condoning hate speech or will in the future. This discussion is about approach, not about goal. You can be self-righteous all you want but it doesn't help OP figure out the best and most effective way to deal with this problem. [/quote]

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