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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's nothing more to it than that.  She's not angry that I'm doing, or not doing, anything else.  And she's not angry because she feels that we have enough sex.  She couldn't reasonably feel that way since we have sex so pathetically infrequently.  She's just mad because she doesn't want to have sex and I do.  That makes me mad too, but getting angry with her about it isn't going to solve anything.  I'd like to have a conversation with her about that subject without the hostility.[/quote]

OP, do you and your wife talk? You're saying "she's not angry..." but is that what SHE said, or what you're assuming (because she "couldn't reasonably feel" any other way)? There's probably a LOT more to it. It's highly improbable that you and your wife talk about everything under the sun without "hostility", yet discussions about sex frequency become hostile.

Is she stressed at work? Is something happening in her personal life? Is she exhausted from caring for the kids all day? What was her day like when you asked her for more sex? What was her week like? Where's her head at? If I'm exhausted from case work, run ragged by my kids, and facing a list of chores that need doing, I'm not in the mood to have sex, or even talk about it.

Then, of course, there's the point that several PPs have already made: maybe your game isn't as strong as you think. My spouse can take me from bad mood to bliss with a few words and a backrub. Do you know what turns your wife on? Do you regularly do those things?

Sounds like you and your wife are badly disconnected, and the lack of sex is just a manifestation of the disconnect.[/quote]

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