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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DW here, this has been an issue in our marriage we are working on. I don't get upset if we are discussing our sex life and how to improve it, but if he specifically asks me for more sex it is a huge turn off and makes it feel like another chore to add to my infinite to do list. Here are some things that have helped my libido and our sex life:
Excersize 
Going out and flirting with other guys (read some of the latest research on women and monogomy)
Sex questions game: take turns asking questions like what's your favorite sex memmory with your spouse, what's a fantasy you've never told me etc
Bringing more kink into our relationship  (dirty texts, sex toys, light bondage etc)

If you had told me I'd be doing this stuff 3 months ago I would have laughed, my sex drive was turned OFF, I've realized the secret to improving things for me is novelty (things had gotten stale) and teaching my husband how to be better in bed, because he'll put a lot of effort in, but wasn't that good and didn't know what I liked. Of course this will sort of need to be driven by her and if she won't even talk about it I'm not sure where to start. Maybe give her a REALLY good experience like long massage with oils before, take your time kissing and enjoying every part of her, eat her out like it's the best thing you've ever tasted, when you're done and she's satisfied, broach the topic like this "You know I've been wanting to have sex more frequently and I'd like to know how I can pleasure you better" then bring up the question game or something else so that you can have an ongoing conversation about sex focuses on her pleasure and not you whining. Not sure if this would work for other women, but it has completely transformed our marriage. Good luck![/quote]

OP here.  Thanks for this.  Hope springs eternal.[/quote]

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