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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, can you answer a couple questions to understand the situation better?
1. Do you have the money for the plane tickets easily or is it a major burden? ( for example, my BIL's 6k destination wedding cost almost put my DH's family in WW III, but to some families that cost is not prohibitive)
2. Is your wife's job in jeopardy? Is she not getting paid when she doesn't work and it's affecting finances? Are you able to use vacation days together or are all of her days taken up with family?
3. Do you have children that need time and care? How is she just jumping on a plane? (I could never just leave my 1 and 4 year old without some planning and major assistance with childcare)
5. Does she see this as a problem at all?
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I am op. We have the money for the tickets. I think more of the issue is that if she didn't, she would charge it- it's like saying no is unfathomable.
She is salaried. But has major responsibility at a small company. Ie she is a one woman department. Boss is cracking down on previously liberal leave policy and I worry that she is pushing it,
No kids yet, but headed there soon.
She doesn't see it as a problem. Neither do sibs. In fact, sibs give her a hard time for not being there MORE. We get a lot of guilt for taking vacations- sibs always bring up "we were dealing with dad when you were off in xxx." 
Fil going to appts alone is NOT an option, according to father in law and sibs. Sorry for analog, but it's like he has ptsd from previous serious health issues and cannot face anything on his own, or with a full time health aide (my ad nauseum suggestion)[/quote]

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