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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that it's very natural for kids to use play as a way to explore things that are unfamiliar or new to them.  Young kids play with very familiar themes, mommy and baby for example, because that's what they're developmentally ready for, but as they get a little older they try out new roles.  She's probably just beginning to notice that some kids have a mommy and a daddy and she wants to know what's different and what's the same about that compared to her experience, so she role plays it as a way to test it out and likely discovers that it's mostly the same.  That pretending to be a daddy rocking the baby doll, or a daddy reading a story to stuffed dinosaur is a whole lot like pretending to be a mommy doing those things.  She'll probably also try on other family roles that she doesn't experience in real life. If she's your only, she might decide to play 'big sister" or "little sister", for example.  Once she's figured this out and made sense of it, she'll move on to things that are even more outside her experience, first things like being a server in a restaurant, or a cashier in a store, or a fireman or a pilot (all very common 3 - 4 year old play themes), and then to the fantasy themes of later childhood.

It's totally normal, and doesn't mean that she's rejecting her family as it is, just that she's learning to relate her experience to the experiences of her friends.  
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I think this is a great response and is probably right on the mark.

(FWIW, my toddler and preschool-age daughters often role play that they are two mommies and have a baby, or make their dolls be two mommies...I am a woman married to a man. I can see how it is a more insecure position to actually be the two mommies who want their child to feel comfortable with her situation, and I can see that I would be concerned in your position, but just know that it's very likely your family has given other kids in your child's preschool the opportunity to expand their imagination and play, too, and they might even be making their own dads feel like crap by constantly talking about how lucky your child is to have TWO mommies.  :wink:)[/quote]

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