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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you all so much for the comments and suggestions. I'm going to go back and review them again.

Let me clear up a few things.  My teenage DD's younger sister is 12. She has candy in her room because their grandparents travel all over the world and send them "care packages",  at times with a few pieces of German candy or the like. We do allow them to keep those things in their room (the older girls, not the toddler who does not receive or eat candy).  My DD will go into her younger sisters room and take hers, once she's finished her own.

My youngest, DS, is a toddler, My teenage DD will take the lunch I've already prepared for him after she's eaten the same lunch I've prepared for her. So, none of this is a matter of her getting slighted - she's already been given the same things, and is going for the other children's things once she's used/eaten her own.

I offered to buy teenage DD the same hair brush I have, but it's only been a couple of days since she decided she liked mine better so I haven't had an opportunity to get it for her yet. She took mine knowing I didn't have another.

I asked her if she felt slighted or like I was paying more attention to the younger kids and she says she honestly just "didn't think" in these situations and that in the future she would be sure to ask/better communicate. I agree with with the PP that a bit of family therapy may be in order. 
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So on the "ask her why" wavelength, ask her to figure out why she thinks she's entitled to other people's things when she is finished her own.  Don't just ask, require a thought out answer.

If she wants a brush like yours, fine.  I just wonder what her next excuse will be.

My own was like this, now at 24 he still "borrows" what isn't his and one of these days will face theft charges.  Why?  Who knows, he just seems to think he's entitled to whatever he wants.[/quote]

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