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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As I father, I believe what men most owe their children is their presence.  I probably make $200,000 less per year than I could be making (half), but I chose to forgo jobs and promotions that required long hours or travel.  Every day I play with my kids after work, go on walks and bike rides, take them to their sports activities, do homework with them, read to them at night, and lay down in bed with them each night and talk about life.  I also volunteer in their classrooms and go eat lunch with each of them once or twice per week.  I believe our relationships with our kids are built in the "small moments", and I see too many men my age who seldom see their kids and aren't fully present when they do, and then seem to think they can make it all right by taking some elaborate week long vacation once a year.  I find it really sad.[/quote]

Thank you for saying this.  Do you also do the administrative work of parenting -- laundry, medical appointments, paying for activities, scheduling playdates and carpools, etc.?  If so, good work!

My child's father is present, but in a circus dad way -- comes to play and that is it.  My son is getting old enough that I worry that he will grow up to think his Dad's example is good parenting.  How were you raised that you came to have this concept of your role as a father?  Did your father do this for you? Or is it something you learned elsewhere? 
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