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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow OP. You are not a friend. You sound like a judgemental bitch.  Would love to see what you would do in her situation.  [/quote]

How does OP sound like a bitch? Am i missing something here? She is trying to help a friend. We all know that sometimes in the name of  love we can be blinded by our devotion to those closest to us that sometimes inhibits our abilities to make good decisions.

Sounds like that is the case here. As her friend she is asking if she should speak to her. Not a big deal. If it were me, I would but it sounds like she knows everything you will tell her. They just aren't ready to face up to it yet. They need to do it on their own timetable. Is the younger brother getting therapy?  I sure hope so. My own brother was sent away for severe depression when it had just overtaken our family (I was 16 at the time and it was really really hard) so I am sensitive to it.

I  loved him but i will never forget the day my parents took him, I felt free and like this huge black shroud of hopelessness was gone. It served him well too, he was gone for 6 months and came back a new person. Today he is a happy, well adjusted successful professional who is married with a daughter on the way. He thanks my parents every day for doing what they did (it was a huge financial sacrifice for them). We were far from wealthy but they did  what they felt they needed to do and it was absolutely the right thing.

Good luck OP. I think if you are good enough friends there is nothing wrong with taking her out for lunch or coffee and telling her that you are just really concerned about  her, their family, her other son, etc....come from a caring and supportive place. [/quote]

I agree with PP.  Sounds very reasonable to me.   While it may not be easy to "ship off" a grown adult child, in order to help him function as an adult that seems like what needs to be done.  There are institutes that handle depression, bipolar, etc.

OP, I think you are a good friend.  While it's hard to see your friend go through so many emotions the last few years, I think you can have a subtle conversation with her and tell her how you see things. I'm sure she's thought of a lot of the suggestions outlined here but just hasn't had the courage to act on any of them. 
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