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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been reading some of these threads, especially the one about spouses who are not providing emotional and physical support to their partners.

This is not really a flip question.. I'm genuinely curiously hear responses. Yes, the question is certainly provocative, but I always thing it's interesting for people to face their own biases.

If you are unwilling to provide your partner sex, why is it such a problem for them to outsource (so to speak) to another person? Many things in many households, which are considered important are outsourced in order to keep the peace/ ease responsibility: food prep, child care, cleaning, etc. but it's absolutely verboten to consider sex a need that needs to be filled.

Why, if sex is not that important TO YOU (but to your partner), is it such a taboo that they meet that need elsewhere? If you agree that it's something sacred in a relationship, why do you deny it to your partner?

I'm a female, and I agree that my body is not "at the disposal" of my DH. That being said, if I didn't feed him for a week, is expect him to find food. Likewise water. Sex is identified as a hierarchical need- so how can we meet that need or ensure it's met? It outsourcing such a problem if you refuse to meet that need? [/quote]

Are you drunk?[/quote]

Are you stupid and uneducated? You never consider psychology, relationships, the human condition (even your own) as an interesting topic of exploration or discussion?

Let me guess. You don't put out, would never consider (even to yourself) why or why not you don't, why or why not your partner might stray, and just expect life to go on as you expect? [/quote]

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