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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD, age 3, WILL NOT, over her dead body, put on anything she deems "for girls," including girl's underpants. She rejects anything that might be a "girl's color," let alone skirts or, God forbid, dresses. This also extends to anything she perceives to be girl-y, including rainbows, unicorns, butterflies, and so on. Call her princess and she freaks the eff out. Instead, she loves dinosaurs, superheroes, bugs and anything reptile (she has about a zillion stuffed dinosaurs, but she cares for them the way many kids do with dolls--feeding them, dressing them, tucking them into bed, etc.). She talks about wanting to be a boy when she grows up, and often says she is "pretending to be a boy." When I ask her what it means to her to be a boy when she grows up, she says she wants to pee standing up.  :wink:

Yes, she has an older brother (age 5), and she worships him. Anything he says or does is cool to her, and most of her life she's tagged along with him and his friends. For whatever reason, we didn't have much off a girls' peer group when she was younger, and even now that she's in preschool she generally prefers playing with boys, though she has friends who are girls, too.

At our last pediatrician's appointment, the doctor asked us if we'd be o.k. if she stays like this (i.e., is trans), and yes, we would be. But it wouldn't be our first choice for her, of course, and I do mourn a little over not getting to have a "girl" the way most parents do. For those of you who've had girls like this, did they outgrow it? If they didn't, when did you know?

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OP, at age 3, my DS loved "girl" colors, loved sparkles and butterflies and rainbows, loved dressing up Barbie dolls, even sometimes said he wished he was a girl. He insisted on growing his hair long and wore it long until he was 11, and never minded at all when people mistook him for a girl. He didn't seem "feminine" per se--he had many attributes that our society thinks of as "boyish"--his energy level, eg. and his rough-and-tumble play. Rather, he seemed very much insulated from our cultural gender norms--he didn't seem to notice what they were, or if he did, he didn't care. He swung easily from stereotypical girl play to stereotypical boy play.

He's 17 now and is completely comfortable as a boy. There is nothing remotely "feminine" about him. He appears to be heterosexual.

He is still very much his own person, marching to his own drumbeat. :-)[/quote]

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