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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your mother sounds borderline.  Borderline people often create intense interpersonal conflict and then fail to understand why people in their lives "hold a grudge" or even forget completely (it's almost like they have amnesia) the stress and strain of the immense underlying conflict.

Her telling you that you could no longer live in your home after she remarried sounds borderline to me.  Then failing to realize this continues to be the reason why you can't be close to her, or that she needs to account for it/apologize.  Also very typical borderline behavior.

Your disinviting her to the wedding sounds like immaturity to me or it could just be a logical way of dealing with a borderline person who was going to stir the shit on your wedding day.  I wish I could have kept my borderline mother away from my wedding.

At any rate, what to do?  She doesn't sound necessary to your life and frankly she doesn't sound like she ever played much of a mothering role to you.  The posters who are advocating reunion with her have a perception of a mother/daughter relationship and family ties that while true in many families does not always hold true.  Are you going to be inviting chaos and dissension back into your life?  I definitely would not choose that.  Because the kind of drama you refer to in your teenage years will NOT have gone away.  Peoples' core personalities intensify as they get older and she will be more "herself" than ever.[/quote]
How's your core personality, in your opinion?[/quote]

You sound angry.[/quote]

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