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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell her you are very sorry that she isn't feeling well (validate her feelings -- very important, otherwise she'll set out to "prove" to you she's really sick) and send her to school anyway. Tell her you will give her tea or hot cocoa or something like that when she gets home.

My DD was like this. She would do a kind of inventory of her body and latch on to something that was wrong. "I have a headache." "I don't feel well." She really would feel these things but she also really didn't want to go to school. So I developed the rule that unless she had a fever or was vomiting she had to go. And by noon she always felt better, and the mystery illnesses stopped. There doesn't have to be a reason (though my DD did have anxiety) school aversion starts small and grows.

You have already gotten her checked out by a doctor. There's nothing wrong with her. You should not be focusing on accommodations, you should be sending her to school. You've already let this go to far and its become an ingrained behavior.

Again, she really feels these things, so validate her feelings. But feelings these things serves a purpose. Don;t feed that purpose. She will only feel better when it no longer serves that purpose.

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Totally agree with this. Yes, she has a stomach ache or head ache or whatever, but so what? Do you stay home from work every time you're feeling a little under the weather? Sometimes you just have to suck it up.[/quote]

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