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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you ask for emotional boosts like this a lot, he's probably really tired of it, doesn't understand it. And if you keep asking, he feels like a failure because he obviously never made you feel better. If it's gone on for awhile, then it makes perfect sense he's cold and emotionless. 
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Hi OP, new poster to this thread. I am emotionally needy right now, and my DH had to come out and say he really could not take my need to vent or feel supported. We talked about it--I thanked him for telling me how he felt--and I also talked to my therapist about it. I'm in therapy for anxiety and also have depression; we had a really horrible holiday season for both of us and he is having stressful problems at his job. It was all just too much for him to deal with, and I was already have preexisting problems--and problems being emotionally supportive of myself. In my situation, my DH has been very supportive over the years, but I realized I am just relying on him for emotional support I need to give myself right now--and there is no one other than my DH and my therapist in my life who is supportive. DH also feels the need to "fix" things and it stresses him out that he can't seem to "fix" things for me. (I need to do that for myself.)

Just saying--if you don't have support other than your DH, I think you need to talk to a therapist or counselor if you aren't already. It's helped me a lot. [/quote]

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